A Slug In Cozies

Many times, that feeling comes: I wish I hadn’t said yes to going out.

There’s that voice that tells me I should be putting on my cozies and sitting like a slug on the couch and watching tv with my spouse.

It whispers that I will have to talk and be social and wear real clothes and I’m already tired… It tells me it’s going to be late when I get home and I will miss bedtimes for the boys. It’s a compelling voice sometimes.

Almost always, I ignore that voice and go out anyway.

And every time, my cup is full after going out and visiting with a friend or two. I feel replenished rather than depleted, even if it was late when I got home.

It was late when I got home because I was talking and being social. It’s because we found so much to catch up on and so much to talk about that even after we paid the bill and moseyed to the parking lot, we lingered and continued to chat.

I had a chance to feel heard and to listen.

It feels good to be a friend again instead of my sons’ mom, instead of my husband’s wife.

It feels good to just be me.

Those are things that fill my cup.

If you have a voice that tells you that you are too tired to go out, tells you it would be better to sit like a slug in cozies on the couch rather than go visit a friend, don’t listen. There are plenty of other nights to be a slug in cozies.

Listen to the voice that tells you your cup needs some topping up.

If you need some help listening to that cup-filling voice, let’s connect. Email me at melissa@fityourselfin.com